The Happy Marriage Code: 3 Golden Rules

Did you know that perhaps the biggest myth about marriage is the belief that communication—specifically, the ability to handle conflict—is the royal road to love and lasting happiness?

While listening skills and problem-solving are certainly important for building and maintaining a relationship, these approaches are all too often seen as the only ingredients necessary for success. Couples who struggle with conflict resolution are then often seen as doomed to fail.

But none of that is true.

Successful marriages are built on deep friendship and emotional intelligence, where mutual understanding and respect play an irreplaceable role. The key to revitalizing a marriage and preventing divorce isn’t how well you handle fights—it’s how you feel together when you’re not fighting.

Together, we’ll uncover three principles that strengthen the friendship and trust at the core of a happy marriage:

1. How well do we really know each other’s inner worlds?

2. Can we continue to feel affection and admiration for each other, even in tense moments—just like in the beginning?

3. Are we able to truly listen to each other’s needs and requests?